The ever increasing divorce rate the world over is quiet alarming, and of great concern to the young and unmarried. I count myself very fortunate to be talked to by many young people concerning marriage. One thing is clear to me by the discussions they engage me in, and that is the fear to marry.
For many, questions like: How do I know the person I want to marry is the right person for me? What if it’s a mistake marrying him or her? How about my own weaknesses, if he or she discover them later in marriage? etc. You may not have spoken to me personally, but if you share similar sentiments, here is a good read for you.
The CLASSROOM is a unique place for learning. If one wants to go through formal education, you cannot skip the classroom. A school is therefore an INSTITUTION FOR LEARNING!
The WORKPLACE is an INSTITUTION primarily for the application of what’s learned from the classroom. Additionally, one learns alongside work, and those who dominate the workplace are those who have learned faster to progress by knowledge and experience. The workplace is therefore an INSTITUTION gaining practical EXPERIENCE.
Marriage, you’ve been told is an INSTITUTION. Theologians will tell you, it is the first institution established by God. Just as the two INSTITUTIONS; SCHOOL and WORKPLACE offer the unique opportunity to learn, it’s apparent that no one can claim to know more about marriage without attending the INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE! Stories about other people’s marriage are woefully not the answer to yours, but only serve as guides.
In every INSTITUTION, there are opportunities to learn. Such opportunities are usually called “Continuous Personal Development” (CPD). CPDs offer opportunity of GROWTH for people of any INSTITUTION to progress. It is expected that as people learn, they grow in the process and improve on their performances and relationships. Therefore, whether experts or beginners in any INSTITUTION, as long as you are open to learn, you’re working on self-improvement and better performance.
Remember this, some people go to school to learn from the scratch. Others go to school to build on their previous knowledge. Both do so to boost their self-confidence and to improve their performances. Society is indeed fast progressive, and you will certainly be left behind if you do not learn!
It’s important however to point out that although people go to school to learn, they’re not totally novice. They actually have a limited knowledge of the subject of study. When I applied to pursue my Masters abroad, I received a series of three assignments to submit prior to reporting on campus to begin the study. These assignments offered me an overview of what I should expect to study. Thus ever before I get to the EDUCATIONAL INSTITUTION, I have a limited knowledge of the subject.
I used this example to draw your attention to the fact that, no one should go into marriage blindly! The period of courtship, the one you call dating, has given you a limited knowledge in previewing what marriage looks like, and what is expected when you finally join the INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE!
To go deeper in studying and comprehending the INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE, you need to be admitted into it. This means, marry! Unfortunately, MARRIAGE is the only INSTITUTION where the students remain students forever – never graduating! When you’re probing the possibility of marriage, keep this in mind that you’re intending to be a student forever. And if a student, do what students do – they learn. But the bad students don’t learn, yet they want to pass their TESTS unprepared for. Therefore when they fail to pass after a while, they dropout, saying the TEACHER is not good enough or that the SUBJECT is too difficult! To whatever you commit your attention to, the better you become at it!
To those who wants to MARRY, and have decided to learn about the subject by asking those who are already in that INSTITUTION, the feedback or the reviews available for you are nothing but the experiences, and not just opinions of those who are ADMITTED INTO THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE! The bad students of the marriage institution will share their bad experiences which may discourage you from marrying. The good students will counter it by telling their great marital experiences, and this may motivate you to marry almost immediately. Regardless of the testimonies of others, there’s no better way to understand marriage, unless you get MARRIED yourself. This is because the best way to know more about a thing is not to observe others do it but to participate! Your own conclusion of MARRIAGE will become a source of literature for reviews by others who are behind you, and seeking admission into the INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE!
Marriage is work, and it is not for the slothful. Marriage is commitment, and it is not a ground for convenience. Marriage is a responsibility, not a privilege. If you fail to learn at school, you will fail your exams and risk dropping out of school. If you fail to perform at the workplace, you lose your job. If you fail to learn in marriage, you risk divorce. The book of marriage, and the field of research of marriage is your spouse with whom you are in the marriage together. Study your spouse, and be tolerant. You will do well by this.
DO NOT FEAR TO MARRY, BUT GOOD LUCK!
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